When Shaming Your Kid On Facebook Goes Horribly Wrong...
A Colorado mother who attempted to teach her daughter a lesson about Facebook use wound up getting blasted by others.
In an effort to show her daughter how quickly something can spread online, Kira Hudson posted a public photo of her daughter and asked her Facebook friends to share it. She had the girl pose with a sign that read, "3/18/14: Mom is trying to show me how many people can see a picture once it's on the internet."
In a screenshot of the post, the mom explained, "My 12-year-old daughter doesn't understand why she can't have an Instagram or Facebook account... Please 'like and Share' ... She just doesn't get it!"
But Hudson probably didn't expect the photo of her daughter to wind up on 4chan, an image-based bulletin board. Users eventually found Hudson's Facebook page, home address and phone number. On Wednesday, the mother received prank calls, and pizzas were delivered to her house. Some also edited the original photo to include an obscene message.
Hudson eventually removed the photo, which had almost 1 million likes.
These sorts of posts might get a lot of attention on social media, but parenting experts do not recommend jumping on the public humiliation bandwagon. Alfie Kohn, author of Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason, previously told us public shaming is "counterproductive" and will "never achieve any result beyond temporary compliance, and it does so at a disturbing cost."
A child is likely to view the parent as an "enforcer" versus an "ally," Kohn added. It could also make the child believe "the reason not to steal (or lie or hurt people) isn't because of how it affects others but because of the consequence you, yourself, will face if you're caught."